The 10 Signs of a Cheating Spouse

Do you suspect that your husband or wife is cheating on you?  If so then you are probably looking for a way to confirm your suspicions.  Before you being spying on your spouse or hire a costly private investigator, look at our list of cheating spouse signs and make sure you recognize some of these behavior in your relationship.

1. Changes in Physical Appearance
Men and women who cheat often want to impress or entice the individual they are having an affair with.  This leads to noticeable changes in their appearance.  If your spouse starts paying more attention to their weight or buys new clothes with no explanation then it could be a sign of an affair.

2. Being Distant and Quiet
Ask yourself, how has communications with your spouse changed since you suspected them of cheating?  If your spouse has recently stopped talking to you or distanced themselves from you at home, there is a good chance that they may be cheating on you.  This is because they may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about their affair or they may already be discussing their problems with someone else.

3. Working Late
You have to be careful when tracking work hours because your spouse’s job may require working late. But with that said, be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment.  Has your husband or wife all of a sudden started working late?  In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, and so forth.

4. Spending Excessive Time with Friends
Hanging out with friends does not always signal a cheater. In fact, healthy relationships also depend on healthy outside friendships. So you should again use common sense here. Check for the appearance of new friends or a sudden interest in new hobbies. Has your husband or wife gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?

5. Unexplained Disappearances
When you are married, there is never really any reason why you shouldn’t know where your spouse is, especially late at night or for long periods of time.  If you do not know, chances are your spouse is cheating.  When they arrive home, they better have a good reason for being late or not letting you know where they were.

6. Rumors
As odd as it may seem, many cheaters are not very good about keeping secrets. The burden of hiding their new found love is often too much to handle by themselves. Thus, they tend to share hints of their affair with close friends, some of whom may have actually caught your spouse out on the town with their date. When the secret gets out it often spreads through the rumor mill. Don’t blow off the things that you hear. If people are telling you that your spouse is cheating, it might be time to start listening.

7. Changes in Sexual Activity
Has your relationship recently shown dramatic changes in sexual behavior – either more or less? This can be a strong indicator of something else going on behind your back. Men and women who get sex elsewhere typically experience changes in their appetite for sexual activity at home.

8. Accusing You of Cheating
This is the old deflection technique. In order to protect themselves from further suspicion, your spouse will turn the tables and accuse you of cheating. These accusations can be so alarming that you become afraid of losing your spouse. This can cause you to forget about their behavioral changes. But if you have a clear conscience then don’t be fooled by this strategy. There is a good chance that they are accusing you of cheating to make themselves feel less guilty.

9. “We are Just Friends”
Answering questions about a new acquaintance with the phrase “we’re just friends,” is a big sign of a cheater. Of course you will have to investigate further before accusing them of anything, but if the friend is of the opposite sex then something may be up.

10. Follow Your Instincts
Instincts are not something that should be easily dismissed.  If you have reason to believe that your husband or wife is cheating, they may be.  If you don't want to be in a relationship with a cheater, it is important for you to follow your heart. Take additional steps to see if they are truly cheating.  These steps may involve hiring a private investigator or spying on them.